Kamyar Adl / CC
A listener wrote in with this dilemma:
My mom and I were really close and have always shared everything with each other, but since she’s retired she is now tight with a few other retired friends and they get together all the time and talk about their grown kids and grandkids. My mom in the past has told me all about my friends and her neighbours and their problems with their kids, their marital issues and their medical problems.
Then I learned that the daughter of one of mom’s friends knew about some problems my husband and I are having with our marriage and the source can only be my mom.
Since then I’ve stopped sharing anything personal with my mother and it’s damaged our once close relationship. I miss the support I used to get from my mom but I don’t need or want the neighbourhood knowing my business. I’ve asked mom not to share personal details about me with her friends but she won’t budge on this. She says her little group of friends are like family to her and she doesn’t want to keep secrets from them.
The whole thing makes me sad but I can’t see any other way around this. Any advice would be appreciated.
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